When We Get Married…

Shortly after the election, Carey asked what Jazz and me would want our wedding to be like when we have one. I lost the draft post I created, but now that I’ve found it again, I thought I’d answer, seeing as our 2nd Anniversary is coming up :)

Yes, it's a little Twilight-inspired. Hush.

Yes, it’s a little Twilight-inspired. Hush.

I want to get married in a church. I’m not that religious, but I do respect Jazz’s family’s Catholicism, their priest is one of my most favorite people, and the inside of their church is just awe-inspiring. So I want to get married in there, BUT… I also want a ton of flowers and plants everywhere so it’s almost like nature came to the wedding too. I suppose I could be talked into the reception looking like that instead, but the ceremony would just have to coordinate.

These are just about perfect!

These are just about perfect!

My outfit… I’m pretty sure I know what that will be and it will be EPIC. Seriously, memorable. Think white tux with tails trailing behind me, sparkling like Elton John in the 70s, a tiara on my head — yep, I said it! — and I will have on a pair of white heels with so much shiny they could make you blind in the right lighting.

I want to look like an ice prince from a fairytale. A winter wedding would be fabulous.

Yes, I know. So gay I poop glitter.

White glitter. There’s a theme.


Jazz can wear whatever he wants. Really, so long as he shows up, I don’t care if he’s dressed like James Bond or Borat at the beach. OK not that much skin can show. If he’d like to be an ice prince too, that’s awesome. Pirate is also acceptable. Hold please because that right there deserves some daydreaming…

Whoo… OK, pirate’s good!

Alec has to wear his dress uniform, btw. I’ve seen it and totally get why Carter gets a little glassy-eyed whenever anyone mentions it. Alec’s Marine friends may also attend in uniform.

Oh crap. Now I want a sword.

So our vows… I’m not sure if I want us to write our own or take over the traditional vows and just work “husband and husband” into them. I mean, I’m not trying to make a statement or anything, but those words mean something about marriage and I want that. I want a marriage, not a gay marriage like there’s something different about it. I won’t be agreeing to “obey” — unless I’m going to share wedding night ideas — but traditional might be the way we go with vows.

cake topper

OK, that is so adorable.

The cake… Not sure there, but I do know there will probably be some smooshing of the cake in somebody’s face. So it has to taste good and have lots of frosting. Sparkly sugar stuff would be really great too. But I don’t care so much if it’s a big cake or a mound of cupcakes. Two grooms on top of something, of course, and one must be blond and fabulous.

Honeymoon. I’m a little stumped on that one. OK, no, I’m cheesy on that one: As long as I’m with Jazz, I don’t care where we are. Our first vacation together was camping. In a tent. With public showers. I figure, if I can do that and love it because we were together, it doesn’t matter where we end up on our honeymoon. A bed, of course, would be nice. Not bedroll.

So, yeah, those are my wedding plans!

Oh, on a serious note: I know we could do all of this any time we wanted to even though it wouldn’t be official in the eyes of our state. We don’t want to. When we get married, we’ll do the whole thing just like anyone else. That’s all there is to it. I look at it as a chance to save up for it a little longer because all those rhinestones and flowers and swords aren’t cheap!

40 thoughts on “When We Get Married…

  1. A beautiful, beautiful vision, Thorny . . . *sigh*

    Would Jazz’s church allow a gay wedding? I know there are lots of cool priests around, but I don’t think they can autonomously defy Church doctrine. :(


  2. I love the plans so much I am not even gonna be mad that you got my name wrong ;) Lordy, I want to be at this wedding! I think that Jazz should have a crown and a sword! It could me like a ice prince and a dark prince! If you go for traditional vows, don’t mess it up and say “for richer or richer”, that will get you the stink eye from the priest! Oh and make sure that the cake in the face does NOT end up in your nose, can’t live picture down!


  3. Sounds like another great party you are planning, Thorny! I am sure it will be lovely. Be sure to be watching the Supreme Court. Maybe your chance to get married where you want will come soon…


  4. I LOVE IT! Sounds really great Thorny, I am definitely a cupcake person not a cake person so I vote for that! Whatever you do it will be special, it’s your big day :)


  5. I have faith in you & Jazz, my friends, I know you will get the day you always dreamed of.

    PS: Just a side note, every time I come to your blog it freezes my computer – (not sure if the glitch is on my end or yours – but it only happens on your blog). Not that it will stop me from visiting.


    • NJ, if you use Chrome, I know WordPress has been a little glitchy with that lately. They said they got everything worked out, but sometimes it makes my browser hang for a few seconds too.


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