Every comment yesterday lifted me up a little more. Like I commented, I felt freer just writing it down and sending it out into the world. But I know how good it felt to see all of you confirming that being a man is defined by the man. So thank you.
A good friend sent me a link to an article about defining “modern masculinity” and I, like her, appreciated this paragraph:
True strength isn’t loud and brash; it’s quiet. True masculinity, a modern masculinity, doesn’t need to prove its existence because it doesn’t require the validation of others to exist, nor is it narrowly defined or exclusionary. It isn’t defined by the size or shape of your genitals or what you do with them. It isn’t something that’s defined by being in charge or threatened by the strength of others – men or women. It sees others as potential partners, not competitors or antagonists, until proven otherwise. At the same time, it doesn’t mean being a doormat, being intimidated by others. The phrase, “never begin a fight, but always finish it” remains true; it’s a strength that comes from maintaining boundaries. About not being afraid to be vulnerable or to present your authentic self. It means being willing to face down challenges to the end, even if it means risking failure. –Dr. NerdLove
I’m also sharing this video because the line “Every day, every hour, turn [your] pain into power,” is going to stick with me.
Lastly, take a minute today to remember what happened 13 years ago at 08:46 in New York City that took the lives of thousands and is still affecting the world.