In July, when we got engaged, it was less than a month between talking about what it was like to be engaged and the post I wrote about being unashamedly in an open relationship with Carter for the past few years…and mutually deciding to stop being open in favor of monogamy. I’m saying this because I’ve gotten a couple questions about whether things will be any different now that we’re married. Simple answer: No, neither of us are interested in anyone but each other right now.
That seems to be the big difference between being in a relationship to being engaged to being married. For us, at least. We’re focused on each other. Or maybe I’m aware of the focus more? Anything’s possible, and I’m told the honeymoon phase lasts a year.
I’m spending a lot more time looking at his face and into his eyes. Not sure why. Probably that phase, but it gets my heart thumping every time. The claiming too, because there’s my ring on his finger and he’s looking right back at me. Just me. Didn’t know I was so possessive, honestly. Thankfully, he seems to like it.
So there’s still bills to pay and work to do, meals to make and space to clean, but there’s an extra layer of “us” to everything now that I didn’t anticipate but am honored to embrace. That’s us, married.